Life changes, I think, as we grow up. When we are children life is an absolute - meaning we live simply because life moves us on. Our parents provide for us and guide us (at least in theory) and we don't need another motivation to live. But that is altered as we grow - and eventually we reach a point where life is no longer self-motivating. So we begin to look for purpose to continue. For some this is a relatively seamless transition, but for many it isn't. Anyways, that in itself is a topic, but I am not going to compare those two positions - I want to go somewhere else with this.
I have been intrigued, both with how important relationships (as in boyfriend/girlfriend) are to the typical young adult's well-being, and with the weight that a relationship carries in so many lives around me (and mine may be included in that). And I've wondered, why?
So, back to the top. I think God designed us to reach that point - the point where we begin to search for purpose; something to make us look forward to each day and give us a sense of satisfaction when we lie down to sleep - something to motivate us to live. And He designed His purpose for us to be that motivation. But we are confused, or deceived, or both and we look elsewhere, most often to - you got it, a relationship. Yes, a relationship can give us reason to get up in the morning and go to sleep at night, it can give us motivation to live. And that is what we use it for, no wonder it is such an important factor in so many lives; no wonder why it carries so much weight - it means your well-being. But when a relationship is used for that purpose, it becomes a snare. Or, I should say, when it is used as the primary motivation in life - it places the person in a very vulnerable position, where his/her well-being is held in check by an temporal, emotion driven weight.
I'm saying there is a better way...
A way that doesn't ensnare, as way that provides satisfaction and stability based upon that most solid foundation possible - God. And a way that doesn't just provide motivation to live, but provides means by which to get better. It's God's purpose for you.
P.S. I am not comparing the two as though a relationship is Bad and God's way is Good. In many cases God's way will involve a relationship for the person, but God's purpose must be the first motivator, not the relationship. And most of the time it is easier for His purpose to be discovered and in place first, before a relationship is pursued.
Anyways, just my thought...
I have been intrigued, both with how important relationships (as in boyfriend/girlfriend) are to the typical young adult's well-being, and with the weight that a relationship carries in so many lives around me (and mine may be included in that). And I've wondered, why?
So, back to the top. I think God designed us to reach that point - the point where we begin to search for purpose; something to make us look forward to each day and give us a sense of satisfaction when we lie down to sleep - something to motivate us to live. And He designed His purpose for us to be that motivation. But we are confused, or deceived, or both and we look elsewhere, most often to - you got it, a relationship. Yes, a relationship can give us reason to get up in the morning and go to sleep at night, it can give us motivation to live. And that is what we use it for, no wonder it is such an important factor in so many lives; no wonder why it carries so much weight - it means your well-being. But when a relationship is used for that purpose, it becomes a snare. Or, I should say, when it is used as the primary motivation in life - it places the person in a very vulnerable position, where his/her well-being is held in check by an temporal, emotion driven weight.
I'm saying there is a better way...
A way that doesn't ensnare, as way that provides satisfaction and stability based upon that most solid foundation possible - God. And a way that doesn't just provide motivation to live, but provides means by which to get better. It's God's purpose for you.
P.S. I am not comparing the two as though a relationship is Bad and God's way is Good. In many cases God's way will involve a relationship for the person, but God's purpose must be the first motivator, not the relationship. And most of the time it is easier for His purpose to be discovered and in place first, before a relationship is pursued.
Anyways, just my thought...
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