An Update

Maybe the heart is more important in a serious relationship than the mind - it sure adds "color", I'll give it that. But the mind ensures that the heart won't be hurt, so if it means anything, the mind should be initiated first in a relationship. If not, then there will be tension; and when the heart has been drained to its limit - for better or for worse - it shuts down. It's not neccesarily a bad thing though, because the subsiding emotions are no longer able to cloud judgement and obstruct the mind from thinking "straight". Maybe you've been here before, maybe you haven't; either way, that's where I am right now and it feels suprisingly un-dysfunctional. I guess you know what I mean, no matter how right the relationship seems/ feels, if the heart starts to dictate the mind - the relationship will be destroyed. I've done that enough, I'm leaving it in God's hand now - and I pray that you aren't hurt by how His plan plays out (but really, I'd rather you be hurt by His plan than by my plan; if worst comes to worst).
Nevertheless, the heart is strangely capable of feeling gratitude even when it is on "leave" (so to speak), and I'm extremely grateful right now for you - a very interesting conundrum, I'll have to think it through and post my explanation later, ha...